Love Means Never Having to Say You're Sorry.

Everyone makes mistakes. It's just part of being human, it's what we do. Two words that can make a mistake go away is "I'm sorry." It may not seem like much, but to a woman it says so much more. When a guy makes a mistake, not does something wrong it's just a mistake, and he apologizes for it by saying "I'm sorry." What we hear is, "I made a mistake, and I know it must've hurt you, so I just want to tell you that."
When a woman makes a mistake ans she says "I'm sorry," what he hears is "I don't want you to be mad at me." And we don't. Nothing hurts me more than the thought that Brent might be mad at me. So, I went through a spell where I was always asking him if he was mad at me for everything. I'm not kidding either. Once I ordered some food for us at Pizza's R' Us, a local dairy bar, and I forgot to get him deep fried mushrooms with his philly cheese steak sandwich. When I got the food home and he asked "Where are my mushrooms?" I freaked and said that I'd forgotten them and was he mad.
He said it was no big deal, so I should have left it alone. But nope. I asked him probably three or four more times if he was mad at me. So ladies, if he says he's not mad: he's not mad. Which brings me to my next point. Little things like forgetting his mushrooms, isn't something that you really need to apologize for. And neither of you should apologize for something that you don't think you did. So, next time she gets mad at something you said that she took the wrong way, you don't have to apologize for that. Because you didn't do anything.
After uprooting a deeper issue to be discussed later, I was getting mad at Brent for everything that just mildly annoyed me before. He called me out on it. He said he wasn't going to apologize for things when he doesn't feel like he did anything wrong. And he's right, he shouldn't. And neither should you. If you don't feel like you did anything wrong then you shouldn't apologize for it. Just let them know you acknowledge that they are mad by saying something like "I know you're mad right now, but I can't apologize for something that I don't think I did." Which bring me again to my next point...
Mean it. Don't tell your sweetheart that you are sorry unless you mean it. If you apologize and you don't meant it you're just going to start harboring resent. Resent because you felt backed into a corner and you had to do something that you didn't want to do. And that's never good. And apology goes hand in hand with forgiveness. Me and Brent see forgiveness in two completely different ways. My view on forgiveness is that when you say "I forgive you" whatever it is that you did just goes away. To me it never happened, because I forgave you. Brent's view on forgiveness is that he is tolerating whatever I'd done. I will be honest, I wanted to argue about it, but I thought better of it. I can't change the way he thinks about things, our brains work differently. But just hearing him say that he forgives me, makes me feel better.
So, with that being said, communicate.